Every argument starts from unmet expectations but can be sorted instantly if the people involved didn’t need to be right.
Think about any argument that you’ve had or think about this during the next argument that comes up. If you don’t need to be right and simply accept or apologise for unmet expectations, the argument will cease to exist. There is a part of our ego that demands that we are always right. This is often protected at all costs by making other people wrong and usually comes at a price of peace and harmonious relationships.
Truth is; nobody needs to be right or wrong in order for peace to exist. It is a matter of acceptance and understanding that we are all individuals and yet we are all connected as one. Accept that we have different expectations of each other; that we have our own ideals and ways of living and use love, communication and acceptance to bridge the divide and embrace the differences.
This is the only way to peace in all relationships and throughout the world.
Many people carry around anger and resentment for a list of people, usually from things that happened that are no longer significant or relevant.
This anger, stress and resentment is dead weight for your mindset. You lug it around all day, brooding and frowning, often not even remembering what caused the bad mood to begin with. And it only causes you pain and hardship, no one else.
This dead weight causes extra stress, poor health, lack of motivation, anxiety, depression, frustration and aging. What’s even worse is that it also blocks positive energy and opportunities in your life.
The good thing is that it is very easy to lose this excess negative energy. Like most things, it’s simply a matter of focus and then repetition and good habit forming will keep it from reoccurring.
One simple exercise is to close your eyes and visualise any negative anger or resentment as if it was a ball of grey mass or something physical and familiar like a lump of concrete or large rock boulder. Then also imagine yourself throwing it off a cliff into the ocean, or blasting it into space or summoning up positive energy and using it to explode the negative energy. Do this as often as you need to, until the negative energy is totally gone from your life.
Once you’ve managed this, you’ll find yourself feeling lighter and people will tell you that you look younger. It’s amazing how much power we have in our own minds. We just need to train ourselves to use them.
Procrastination is the opposite to decision.
As Napolean Hill says it in the timeless and empire building classic ‘Think and grow rich’, procrastination is the opposite of decision and an enemy everybody must conquer if they are to reach success.
This is very true as procrastination will only ever slow or stop progress, it will never enable it.
People who overcome procrastination and achieve success, tend to reach decisions quickly and change their minds slowly. And it is people who do the opposite that tend to have the most difficulty with procrastination and as a result are slowest to find success.
Just like anything else, quick and confident decision making can be trained. There are various exercises that one can do in training for reaching the right decisions quicker and not looking back.
My favourite is when ordering from a menu. Scan the page very quickly and pick the very first item that grabs your attention, then promptly close the menu and order. Don’t look back. Don’t look around. Simply take pride in reaching your decision quickly and live with your choice.
This takes practice like any other skill but I’ve gotten so good at it, that I’m happy with my choice every time and confident that i’ve made the right decision. I enjoy my meal so much more then when I let doubt or insecurity enter my mind. I also build confidence in myself each time I do this and apply that confidence in everything I do.
I also now apply the same principal when making big life changing decisions because i’m confident that I have trained my brain to make the right decision quickly. This has almost completely diminished any need to procrastinate. I make a decision and act promptly, removing any need for hesitancy or delay.
Most of us don’t realise that our lives are the result of our moment by moment choices and our everyday habits.
The best thing about this, is that we can simply change our lives and improve our results just by making different momentary choices and changing our habits. And the two are connected because you must also choose first to change your habits.
Habits are the results of repeated ACTION. This is a very important distinction because it means that to change habits, you must take different action and repeat.
As an example, if you want to wake up earlier but have a habit of pressing the snooze button. You must first make a different choice, then take a different action, in this case not pressing the snooze and jumping out bed, then repeat until habitual. Twenty eight days will see any repeated action turn into a habit for the subconscious mind.
Try this. Apply it to any habit that you want to change or any result you want to create. And remember you can also make a good habit out of stopping a bad one. Give it a go.
The creator gave us the complete, unchallengeable right of prerogative over one thing, and only one thing – our own mind.
This quote was taken from the second chapter of Napolean Hill’s Unlimited Success.
This is such a profound truth that if we truly comprehend it, then all else will make sense in the journey of life.
Most people don’t realise that acceptance is the most important gift you can give to anyone, especially those you love.
It is usually the closest to us; our partners, parents, children, friends and family, especially those we live with, that we least give the gift of acceptance to. We fight, argue and blame each other instead of simply accepting the other person just as they are. We put all our energy into being right and proving the other person wrong instead of loving, forgiving and accepting that person. Then we wonder why we’re stressed, tired and unhappy all the time.
Accept everyone as perfect, all the time. This is challenging at first but just like anything else with a bit of training, it becomes automatic. Don’t try and change a person or show them how they’re living below your expectations. Simply accept them and love them regardless. This is important for every person you come across and essential for those you live with. After all you have chosen them to be in your life. Always know that. You have chosen them to share you life with so accept and celebrate who they are, even when you don’t agree with it.
Being grateful is an essential part of improving energy flow into your life.
Dr Wayne Dyer explains that true appreciation is understanding that there are no ordinary moments.
Appreciating everything that you have, even in the face of scarcity opens you up to life and all of its abundance. This is often a difficult thing to do, especially at first, but as with most things, with a bit of training, it will become easier and begin to occur naturally.
On the journey to realising your desires, it is imperative that you open up the flow of energy both in and out of your life. An easy way to train yourself to improve flow and appreciation is through generosity. Giving away at least 10% of everything that comes into your life, no matter how little you have, is a great way to say thank you to life for its abundance and show your true appreciation. Just like a treacle that becomes a creek which becomes a river, this action will forge the channel that will generate the flow of abundance into your life.